Help Your Children Deal With Their Feelings

By Dr Renita D’Souza

Behavior is the outcome of emotions and feelings in a child. All feelings of the child need to be accepted and respected but certain actions must be limited. Example “I can see how angry you are at your brother. Tell him with words, not by breaking things”.

How to accept and respect child’s feelings?

Listen calmly and attentively to what child has to say. It will be easy and comfortable for children to express their troubles to someone who is listening. Need not say anything, all what a child need is the sympathetic silence. Children may not know to express their feelings, so we can give name to their feelings. Like, “So you are hurt, for your best friend did not come to your birthday party.” Sometimes just recognizing their feelings with simple words like “Oh…..mmm” or “I see” can help children explore their own thoughts and feelings. It can also be possible that they come with their own solutions.
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How to free your kid from playing roles?

Sometimes children behave like the old labels given to them or they play different roles which are unacceptable. In this case, give child a task to complete and, in this way, you put your child in a situation where they can see themselves differently. Example, “Tom would you serve water for guest”. Explain the desired behavior to child that you would like to see. Choose a reward that your child would enjoy and explain it to them. Giving good rewards is one way to encourage good behavior.
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What to do when children want something they can’t have?

Most of the time it is not possible to give what child demands to have. Child protest harder when the want is rejected. Harder we explain why they can’t have it, the harder they protest. Instead of rejecting let’s try something new which will make the child easier to bear reality. Fulfil the wish of a child in fantasy when it is not possible to have in real. It is easier to accept the reality when just having someone to understand how much you want something.  Example,” I wish I could make this blue dress change into pink for you right now!”
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How to praise your Child?

Praising children in right way will help child build self-esteem and boost self-confidence. Appreciating efforts of children can help develop growing mindset in them. They do not fear failure and see every challenge of life as a new experience and an opportunity for self-development. Let children overhear something positive about them. Be a storehouse for your child’s special moments.

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